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Holiday Chaos and the Blunt Advice You Asked For

• Emily Hogan

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A tart holiday margarita set the tone, but the real kick comes from candor: a chaotic building alarm test, an unplanned two-week break, and a reset that chooses grace over guilt. From there, we tap into the heart of this show, community, curiosity, and the courage to say the quiet part out loud.

We start with your requests: more true crime, more ghost stories, and a promise to build an episode around your scariest submissions. Then we laugh (and side-eye) our way through a list of icks, from public speakerphone theatrics to performative thirst traps that turn baking into a spectacle. It’s humor with boundaries, a reminder to curate what we consume and how we show up.

Is Los Angeles scary? As a native, I share the practical answer: it depends where you are, how aware you stay, and how you feel about driverless Waymo cars navigating real city chaos. Between the Citizen app’s constant pings and a recent police-standoff incident, tech optimism meets everyday safety. To balance the adrenaline, we dive into TV: early-season Vanderpump Rules highlights, The Valley with content cautions, Secret Lives of Mormon Wives, competition staples like Survivor and The Amazing Race, and comfort rewatches that hold you through long days. Horror fans get a nudge toward It: Welcome to Derry, if you’re able to handle extreme horror.

The heart of the episode lands with Gremlin Guidance. First: a two-year situationship with a guy seeing someone else and the hope to “make him see” you’re the one. My take is blunt: stop auditioning. If he can’t choose you without a campaign, he already has. Second: a four-year relationship, holiday proposal expectations, and the temptation to set an ultimatum. I argue for patience and clarity, want a partner who’s excited to propose, not a passenger who felt cornered.

Share your true crime and ghost stories, send your dilemmas for Gremlin Guidance, and help shape what comes next. If this resonated, follow, rate five stars, and pass it to a friend who needs a loving but direct nudge. Your stories are the show! What should we tackle next?

To submit your own Gremlin Story and Gremlin Gossip or if you need Gremlin Guidance email the pod at EMILYTOGREMILYPOD@GMAIL.COM

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Okay, cheers guys. Oh my god, I made that a a little too strong. Okay, Emily, Emily to Gremily here with a solo episode. I want to welcome back all returning listeners and welcome all the new listeners. Thanks for tuning in. The episode drink, it is, I was trying to be in the mood and in the festive spirit. So I went on TikTok and I found a couple of different margarita recipes. Again, I'm not really much of a tequila drinker, but you know, every now and then I'll get like that bug in me where I'm like, I think I want tequila. And lo and behold, I had tequila in my home. So that's probably what gave me the idea anyway. So I made, I think on TikTok, the I should have written the creator's name down. It was called, I want to say like a Rudolph Margarita. I saw a couple different ones. It's basically just um geez, tequila, cranberry juice, lime juice, um, triple sec. And I think that was it, if I don't if I'm remembering correctly. So yeah, that's what we're working with here. She's tart, she's pretty tart. So um I think I put a decent amount of um of mix in there. So there we go. That's that. Okay, so on I believe my last episode, I had said that I was gonna hold myself accountable and put out episodes every single week, including the holidays. I'm still planning on doing that. Unfortunately, I just came back from a two-week break that I was not planning on having. So, first off, there were a bunch of um repairs that were going on around the building, which I think I had talked about in the last episode. Those went on for a little longer than they were supposed to, because of course, and then we had inspectors coming in. It has to be just kind of like end of the year stuff. It was like people from the city were being sent in to test like our alarms, our smoke detectors, our sprinklers. It was just like a whole to-do. Um, one of the days they were testing the alarms, they didn't tell people, and it absolutely scared me because it the whole building alarm went off. And I it was like around 11-ish. So I was already up and doing stuff, but I froze for like a moment, thinking like, oh my god, I'm here by myself. I have my two cats, and I was just trying to think, like, what do I grab other than the cats? Like, I was already digging out their cat carrier when I was already when I was also thinking, like, what do like what do I grab? Like, I'm it, I was still in my pajamas because I was being like a lazy slob that day. I was just freaking out. Luckily, before I pulled the cats out from underneath the bed and the couch, I walked outside and to see if there because I heard no commotion. Like I didn't hear people in the courtyard, nothing. So I was like, what's going on? I go run out there and I see this nice man. He's standing like down the hallway, because we have an outside courtyard, and he was like, Hello, ma'am. And now that I think back on it, he did have a fireman or like the fire station logo on his shirt, and I was like, What's going on? He's like, Oh, we're just testing the alarms, make sure they work. And I almost peed my pants, and I was like, Okay, thanks. And that happened, so there was a ton of just like random building work going on, and so that was one of the weeks, and I was like, All right, we just have like too much going on around here. It was lots of noise at all hours of the day, it was just too much. And then the next week, I was having a little bit of a mental crisis, I guess we'll say. Um, I won't talk about it too much right now because I'm still trying to like get myself out of it. It was just kind of a hard week. So I didn't want to put out an episode and cry, or I don't even know. Like, I don't know if I would have been able to do it. So I just didn't. And I had to give myself grace for that, but it was pretty ironic that I had said already I was gonna put out episodes for the rest of the year, and then I didn't. So that's okay. We will just start fresh and start new. It was funny though, when I was editing that episode and I heard myself say it, I thought, like, ooh, like you just said that out loud. Did you just jinx yourself? And I did. So oh well. Um, but I already this episode is coming out the day before Christmas Eve. And the next episode, I'm gonna do a New Year's wrap-up. That is coming out the day before New Year's Eve. So we're doing holiday episodes. We're not skipping them. Well, I'm doing this one now. We're not skipping next week. I am determined. I'm gonna end out this year strong and go into 2026 stronger. We'll talk about that next week because that's more of a New Year's episode. So, for this episode, it's gonna be holiday-ish. I don't know. It's not really a holiday episode. Um, I'm gonna mention a few um questions that I had sent in and then the two Gremlin guidance um questions I was sent, I'm answering them because I thought they were they needed to be answered right away before the holidays happen. But before we get into that, um I had kicked it to you guys. If you guys have any suggestions for future guests, to let me know like who you want to hear from, what you want to hear. And I got a submission from Sarah, and Sarah says, I know it's not Halloween time anymore, but I really enjoyed your true crime episode and would love to hear more. Also, if anyone has ghost or spooky stories, I think that could be a fun episode. Signed Sarah. So now I have to kick it off to you guys. If you have any more true crime stories, I do believe I think I have like two left in my inbox, so I'll make sure to go through and pull those out. But if you have any more um true crime stories you want to send in, it doesn't have to be Halloween time to talk about crime. Unfortunately, crime happens all day, every day, which is extremely unfortunate. And if you have ghost stories or spooky stories, send those in. I have my own ghost story. As soon as I read that, I thought of the story that I'm personally gonna tell on that episode. So yeah, stay tuned and send in your spooky stories, your ghost stories, your true crime stories, anything you got. Sarah wants to hear about it. I want to hear about it. So send those in. Um, emily to gremlatepod at gmail.com, or you can DM me, send me a message on Instagram or TikTok. And last thing I do want to mention before we get into the episode is I received a message on Instagram from Ashley, and I didn't write exactly down what she said, but Spotify lists like all the podcasts that you listen to, and I was on her list and I got like so tickled pink. Unfortunately, I saw it like a day late from when she sent it, so I responded as soon as I saw it. But I was like so excited, it made my day, and I was having a particularly bad couple of days. So, Ashley, thank you so much for sending that to me. It was just a small little kindness that you sent over, and it made a pretty big difference in the rest of my day. So thank you for that, Ashley. And yeah, let's get into it. So these are um questions. I just titled the segment Gremlin Questions. I don't have a cute title for it. Um, it was just questions that I had gotten either um messaged to me or they were included in someone's email. So I figure I should just read them out. Let's see. The first one is from I hope I don't butcher your name right now. Noemi or Noemi. Um, anyway, she says, We heard Jay's list of icks. What about yours? Signed Noemi. I hope I said that right. Um, I wrote down mine because I knew I would forget about one or two of them. I even when I made this list, I was like, there's something else. I know there is, but this is what I could think of, and I'm sure more will pop up later on in life. Um, men's feet. I think men's feet are gross. I don't want to see them. Like I know that they're there, but it's like an out-of-sight, out of mind thing. I've never seen a guy who has like cute feet. They're just like they're so they're big and that they have like hair on the toes, and it's like their nails are weird. I mean, yes, guys do get pedicures, or and if they don't, they should. But it's just like there's only so much you can do, and like you you have to work with what you're given, and it's it's just it's it's just not like ugh. That's a nick. I don't want to see men's feet, and I I just what I was about to say might sound weird. I was gonna say, I've seen so many men's feet, and that I think that's just because like I live in Los Angeles, you know, people right now are wearing flip-flops, you know, it just that's just the way it is. But it's just like like cover your dogs up. Like, I just I don't want to see them in my sight. Sorry, men. Um, the next one was people who talk loud on the phone, especially if you're on speakerphone in public. Like, look, I know I'm nosy, I'm gonna listen to what you have to say, but usually it's not a conversation worth listening to, and you're just doing it like I don't know, because you think you're important and like we want to hear your conversation. Like, if you're gonna talk on speakerphone, have it be like a juicy piece of gossip. Don't have it be like what you're gonna cook for dinner. Like, no. Um, the next one was the pick me people or people who do weird things for attention. I can't stand that. Or like I feel like maybe this is a little more like towards girls. Girls who I know, how do I want to say this? Girls who I think are pretty insecure with themselves overcompensate by being overly like flirtatious to men or like just very pick-me energy. Like it's just like they'll do things because they think a guy will like it, and like, you know, they want that attention from that guy if they're not being given the attention. Like, let's say a guy's talking to me, then this girl over here is gonna be doing something obnoxious to get his attention. It's just like, baby girl, have some self-respect, and that didn't happen to me recently. That's just like from past issues and times, and it's just always annoyed me, so it's on my ick list. And the last thing, I added this actually like a few days ago when I was working on this outline because I had just seen it. It's those guys on TikTok who make overly sexualized videos. Um, I might, I don't know. I I was gonna say I might include it in stories, but I don't want to give them attention. It's like, you know, like I was watching one, it was I like watching cooking videos on TikTok because it like soothes me. It's like nice to like I doom scroll before I go to bed because I know it's bad for you, but I still do it. But I like watching, you know, cooking videos or baking videos, and it's those guys who are in like a dimly lit kitchen and then they're like let's say making like a loaf of bread and they throw the dough on the on the counter and then smack it, and they're like almost dry humping it. It's just you guys know what I'm talking about. It's like why do you like why can't you just show me how to make bread? Like, I don't need to see you fingering the dough. It's so weird. I don't like I would never I'm like terrified to make content because I'm just like pretty insecure with myself. One of the things I plan on working on, but I just I can't imagine that's like some self-confidence that I don't understand and don't think I'll ever have is just to to dry hump my counter while I cook. It's weird, and then there's also those guys who do those videos where like they're talking straight to the camera and they're like winking into the camera and like saying these like odd things. I can't even give an example because right now my mind just went blank, but you guys know what I'm talking about. It's just odd, or like they'll pretend like they're talking to the girl and they'll be like, Don't worry, baby, I got you. And then they'll like wink or like lick their lips. It's like, ew. Also, they look like they're like 17, like scroll away. I told I hate them. I always put them on my dislikes because I don't want to be fed that into my algorithm. But unfortunately, because I stayed on one video too long and I sent it to Jay because I was like, what's this guy doing? My algorithm now thinks I like that and I need to fix it to go back to um my cooking and cleaning videos because that's they're they're assaulting my eyes when they do that. Um, okay, that was the end of my list of icks. I know I forgot something. I'm sure something's gonna come to me while I edit this, or someone's gonna point out and be like, wait, you said this one time. It's bound to happen. Okay, the next question I got was from Shelby. Shelby asks, is it scary to live in Los Angeles? It seems like such a big scary city, so I wonder what your thoughts are. Signed Shelby. So no, I'm born and raised here in Los Angeles. I don't think it's scary. There are scary people, but I think there's scary people everywhere. Um, if I do like go for like a walk, I don't like to walk in silence. So I always have my AirPods in, but I only put one of them in. That way I can still be like aware of my surroundings. I don't want someone to be able to like run up on me. Um, but no, I don't think it's scary. I have, I just like, I don't know, maybe a month ago, downloaded this app. It's called the Citizen app. And you can like type in like your home address and it'll tell you crime that's going on around you. I didn't realize there was so much crime happening like within like my streets, but it's nothing scary. It's usually like, you know, I don't even know what it was. Like, I saw one earlier today where it said a guy was banging his head on a concrete light pole, um, and it was like, I don't know, half a mile away from me. And I was like, huh, like that's interesting. But it's Los Angeles. Um, unfortunately, we do have a pretty big um homeless epidemic that needs to be addressed and helped and fixed. Um, but and you know, some people need mental health resources that they're not able to receive because our government or our government officials have decided that they don't care or they can't fix it fast enough. I don't really know what's going on. Um, politics bother me, so let's not talk about that. Um, the other part of Los Angeles that I personally have found scary recently has been Waymo's. And I talked about it with Jay on the was it the last episode she was on? I'm not 100% sure. But she had gotten into Waymo. She was going like two blocks, so it wasn't that big of a deal. But within the past like month or so, there have been so many incidents with Waymo's. Um, a few things happened in San Francisco that were sad, but one that recently happened here in Los Angeles was there was a passenger of a Waymo car. They were headed to their destination. The car made, the Waymo made a left, and because there's no person driving the car, they couldn't see that they drove right in the middle of a police standoff. And if I was that passenger, I would have freaked out. Like, you can't get out because then like you don't know what's going on. So I would have just ducked down. The Waymo eventually did move. It's just, I think they're they're kind of scary. So I guess, and a lot of and I think only the big cities right now have Waymo's, they're being like tested out. They're also gonna be tested on freeways. I think that's already started. Um, so I think for me right now, that would be the scariest part of living in Los Angeles is the amount of Waymo's that you that they have um on the streets. I I don't like them. I used to make fun of my boyfriend because whenever he saw a Waymo, he was like, Oh, it's a Waymo. Like, you know, he treated it like a boogeyman. And I I see it now. Like I won't plan on getting in one. I hope I don't get run over by one. So yeah, other than Waymo's, I think Los Angeles is super nice. Because Los Angeles is so big, there are so many different like little suburbs or little like cities, I don't know how to say it, um, within Los Angeles. So the one I grew up in is Culver City, which is located in Los Angeles. I absolutely loved Culver City, still do. Um, so yeah, it's just I guess a matter of like where in Los Angeles you live. There are, of course, certain parts that aren't very desirable, but there are also like really nice parts and that I don't feel too nervous walking around. You just have to make sure you're aware of your surroundings. But that's anywhere. You know, crime and scary people live in like itty-bitty small towns. Those are usually the episodes I see on the ID channel. Okay, and the next question is from Ariel. Ariel says, I'm at home on bed rest for the remainder of my pregnancy. Give me some of your TV recommendations. I've also been getting into reality TV after hearing your love for it. Signed Ariel. Well, congratulations, Ariel, on your preg are Ariel, Ariel. I'm saying it two different ways. I'm sorry. I think it's Ariel, by the way, it's spelled. Um, congratulations on your pregnancy. Super exciting. Um the TV recommendations that I have, I'm scared to give them to you because I don't want to like upset you. Um, so I don't know what your preferences are. So, first, let's do reality TV. If you haven't already started Vanderpump Rules, you have to start it. It's great. There were 11 seasons. Um, there is a new 12th season. I haven't watched it yet. It hasn't been given good reviews. I don't know. I don't know if I really want to invest my time. Into getting to know new people. That might that sound like a me problem, actually. But um, yeah, I'm not sure if I'm gonna watch season 12, but season one through 11 is Chef's Kiss. Actually, I lie. Season one through eight is Chef's Kiss, and then Stasi and Jax and Kristen aren't on the show anymore after that, so I was like, whatever. But also, you could watch The Valley, which is a spin-off of Vanderpump Rules. I watched the first season, it had you know some of the same characters in it, but I did not watch season two because I had seen clips on TikTok, and there was a certain gentleman on there named Jax Taylor, where he is he's just always been a terrible person, extremely abusive, narcissistic. Um, it reminded me of a past ex from what I saw, and it kind of triggered me. I didn't want to see it, so I didn't. Um, but I heard season three, he has been fired from the show, so to-aloo to him. And hopefully season three is better, but you can watch that. Also, Secret Lives of Mormon Wives. That's a good show. There's three seasons for you to binge. Unfortunately, they're not like super long seasons, but gives you something to do. So, yeah, Secret Lives of Mormon Wives. Um, we also like my boyfriend and I have like love watching like competition reality TV. So we just finished the brand new seasons of Amazing Race and Survivor. If you like something like that, there's also Dancing with the Stars that just finished. So you can watch that. There's also, if you end up liking Survivor or Amazing Race, there's like a backlog of like 20 years of seasons that are on Paramount Plus that you could literally like take forever watching. And you can watch it like after you have your baby and you're on maternity leave, it's just something fun to have on. Um the what I have just recently watched, it's only watch it if you're having a happy pregnancy and you're not scared easily by something. Um, but I'll give it to the rest of my listeners. We watched the Diddy documentary that 50 Cent put out, and uh it was four episodes, it was on Netflix, and what what a petty queen 50 Cent is. I think I'm gonna add him to my hall pass list because I aspire to be such a petty bitch one day. Like, nobody hates like 50 Cent. And he really he he dug in and he found footage that Diddy had taken of himself because he was planning on putting out his own documentary about the trial and him being acquitted, and um he he wasn't acquitted, so he bought the footage out from under him. It it's just like it's a good documentary, only if you're in a good place mentally to watch it. Um, there's a huge trigger warning on it. Um, they don't only talk about the freak-offs that became the subject of the trial, they go, he goes all the way back to like the 90s and how allegedly he could be connected to the Biggie and Tupac murders. It's pretty good. So watch that if it doesn't trigger you. Also, we love um like horror movies. I hope did I say that right? I don't know. I just like tripped over my words. Um, so if you like the It movies, there is a uh season one of It Welcome to Dairy on HBO Max. It's supposed to be a prequel to It Chapter One and Chapter Two. What I will say though is you have to pay attention. Like you really have to pay attention to it because the first like four episodes, we binged it and we watched it, and I thought it was scary, but at the same time, I like we had made dinner, I we were eating dinner, we sat on the couch, I was on my phone, I was on my computer. I didn't fully pay attention to the first four episodes. So then the last four episodes, I was trying to catch up and I was like, wait, like who is that? Like, why are they doing this? You have to pay attention. So, since you're on bed rest, you can pay attention to it, just don't be on your phone. Um, I want to go back and re-watch the beginning episodes and then catch up again. We still have one more episode left to finish, which is episode eight. And we're planning on watching that tonight, and then I want to go back and re-watch the whole thing. Also, it's just been announced it's been renewed for season two and season three. So that should be fun. But yeah, those are my recommendations. Um, also, if you just want to like binge something, I always re-watch The Office. Um, Friends is a good one. You can watch Office is on Peacock, Friends is on HBO Max. Um, what's another one I like to rewatch? Oh, I like going, I this is like a show I watched as a kid. I loved watching I Love Lucy. That's on Paramount Plus. And there's like, I don't know what, like seven seasons of that. But you know, that might not be your cup of tea. It's from it's a show from the 50s, but I love Lucy. See? There we go, name of the show. Um, so yeah, hopefully I gave you some good recommendations. If I think of anything else, I'll make sure to add it in. Um, like, I don't know, next episode. Just email me, let me know what you think. Okay, and next we have two gremlin guidance questions that again I thought needed to be addressed like immediately. Though they're both anonymous. The first one, she asks, Hi, I've been listening to your podcast since almost day one. Thank you for that. I love your guidance section, so I wanted to write in and ask your opinion on my situation. I'm 24 years old and just starting my big girl job in Chicago. I've been in a situationship on and off for about two years. We are currently headed back towards being on again, but he told me he's been seeing this other girl. How do I make him see that I'm the one he's meant to be with? Anonymous. Okay. I want to be very blunt with you, and I'm gonna try to be nice about it, but this is gonna come off pretty blunt. Um, are you kidding me? If a guy can't see you're that you're worth it, then you don't want him. Like you wanna prove to him that he's supposed to pick you. Like, absolutely not. If he can't pick you on his own, then he can the other girl can have him. Like, good luck to her. But I would I've never once chased a man in my entire life, and I never will. He shouldn't be making you like feel like you're in a competition with somebody else. Like, if he wants to be with you, he should be with you. It's like it's kind of like that movie. What was it? He's just not that into you. Like, if he wanted to, he would. And it seems like and also a situationship for two years. No. Like, I want to I'm dying to know the backstory of this. Like, where'd you guys meet who I'm assuming the star like a friends with benefits and just kind of never stopped. But I would I wouldn't talk to him ever again. I wouldn't want to be with somebody who doesn't see my worth. And if he can't see it, then he can't have it. So he you need to move on so that he can stop like running your life. Like you're trying to think of ways of how to show him you like he you think he's the one, he's not the one. You kidding me? Absolutely not. And you're 24 years old, and you just started your big girl job in Chicago. That's a huge accomplishment. So I think you need to focus on yourself and focus on your job that you just got. I'm not sure what it is, but a big girl job in Chicago sounds super fancy. So, congratulations to you on that. And I would just absolutely not talk to this guy again. Like, no guy should make a girl run after him or chase him or you know make it them feel like, oh, like I have to prove to him that he should be with me. Why can't why isn't he proving to you that he you should be with him? Like, why is he so goddamn special? Mm-mm. No, no, no, no. We don't do that here. So I'm gonna tell you to kick his ass to the curb and no, you deserve so much better. And starting 2026, we are working on our self-worth and our self-confidence, and that doesn't include being around men who don't see that we are worthy. Plain and simple. I hope I didn't make you upset or cry, but if you were right in front of me, I'd still tell you the same thing. Okie dokie. And the next one, anonymous. I had to get to you as quick as possible. Anonymous says, What are your thoughts on ultimatums? I have been with my boyfriend for four years now, and I've told him how much I want to get married. I've been hinting that I'm expecting a proposal during the holidays, but if he doesn't, I think I want to give him an ultimatum and a time limit. What are your thoughts and do you think I'm being irrational? Um, I think you're being irrational. I what my thoughts on ultimatums like for marriage, I wouldn't do it. Um I think you should want your boyfriend to be excited to want to propose to you, and like for him to be, you know, nervous and excited to pick out your ring and plan the proposal, and you know, maybe talk to like one of your friends about like, oh, would she like this? And not be like, oh great, she forced me to do it. Like, uh, I have to go ring shopping, uh, whatever. I guess I'll propose to her like at that restaurant. I don't care, which is what he's gonna do if you force him into doing this. Like, you want him to want to do it. I think it would take a it takes away the excitement if you're like nagging him to do it. And as far like you're saying, let's see, you want a proposal during the holidays, you want to give him an ultimatum and a time limit. So let's say you do that and the time limit's six months from you know, let's say like right now, the holidays. So that means come June, if he doesn't do it, are you gonna break up with him? And like, wouldn't that make you sad to not be with this guy that you want that you like want to marry? Or and you have to ask yourself, why do you want the why do you want the proposal? Like, is it because you want the big ring and the wedding and you want to plan it and you know do all that, the bachelorette party and the bridal shower? Is that what you're excited about? Or are you excited about the marriage? Because I feel like we get swept up so much in thinking, like, oh my god, like he's gonna propose and this and that. But after like all the all is said and done, and we have the party and we do this and we come back from our honeymoon, you're gonna just settle into a marriage. So what is it that you really want? The marriage or the party? I shouldn't call a wedding a party. If someone called my wedding a party, I'd probably like deck them. But is it like what do you want? Do you want the the celebration of the day or do you want what's after it? Because if you want what's after it, then I don't think you should break up with him. Because if you're excited about like the marriage and the after, aren't you kind of living that right now? Like, not not much is gonna change after the wedding if you guys are already living together, sharing finances, you know, all like all that jazz. So I think you really need to look inward on what it is that you want. And I get like some people are they're like dying to get married, you know. I'm one of those people, I love weddings, I love watching weddings and proposals and all that stuff, but I would never force someone to do it. And as far as ultimatums go, I personally myself have given an ultimatum, but it wasn't for marriage, it was for an ex to basically get his shit together and and then he didn't, so I broke up with him and yeah, so that's I agree on ultimatums like that, like hey, ship up or ship out, but I wouldn't I wouldn't give an ultimatum for marriage, I or for a wedding or a proposal. I think I think you're playing with fire, and that I think what if you do that and it backfires on you and he's like, well then forget it. And what if you guys just break up? You know, would you be like super sad about breaking up with him and not being with him, or would you be more sad about the fact you didn't get a ring this Christmas? So I wanted to read this as soon as possible because when you guys are hearing this, the next day is Christmas Eve, and I don't want you to make any rash decis rash decisions. Either way, I an ultimatum, I wouldn't do that. You want him to want to do it and not be forced into doing it. Because when he gets down on his knee and he proposes, you want him to want to do it and not have it be an obligation just because he thinks he might lose you. I think I think you need to rethink this. Do I think you're being irrational? A little bit. Sorry. My gremlin guidance is today were um mean and blunt, I feel like, but I just needed to you guys wrote in and you wanted my opinion, so I gave you my opinion. Hopefully you're not mad. Okay, that's the episode. Um if you want to send in your own gremlin stories, gremlin guidance, uh, gremlin gossip, send those in to emily to grammarlypod at gmail.com. If you want to follow me on Instagram or TikTok, please do. It is EmilyTogremile Pod on Instagram and TikTok. You can also watch these episodes and almost all the past episodes on YouTube, Emily to Grammy Pod on YouTube. Um, make sure to like, share, subscribe, rate five stars, do all the things. Make sure to write in if you have any suggestions for future guests. People you want to see, people you want to hear from, um, certain specific people, certain professions. I I'm not that big and famous yet, so I don't have a ton of connections. So let's be a little realistic with what we say. Um, and again, a reminder: if you have true crime, ghost, or spooky stories, send those in and we'll do another episode since Sarah asked for it. And next week will be the 2025 New Year's wrap-up. And we're gonna end out this year on hopefully a happy note. I don't know. But if you want to send in any um Gremlin stories um or gremlin gossips that happen to you around the holidays, whether they be past holidays or maybe they just happen on Christmas Eve or Christmas or Hanukkah or Kwanzaa or what anyone celebrates, um, yeah, send those in and I will make sure to add those in specifically for that episode. And yeah, we'll just do an end-of-the-year wrap-up. Hopefully it's a good episode. I don't know what the drink will be, but it won't be a margarita, that's for sure. All right, cheers, guys. Thanks for listening. Thank you for dealing with my absence. Cheers to you, cheers to me, and cheers to the two anonymous gremlins. I hope you were okay with the advice I gave you. Ah, okay, bye.

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