Relationship Reality Checks

He won’t say “I love you,” his best friend admits he can’t stand you, and your blind date disappears into the bathroom like a magic trick gone wrong. We sit down with Robert (still proudly incognito) to answer your Gremlin Guidance relationship questions with a blunt male perspective and the kind of honesty that’s actually useful when you’re spiraling at 2 a.m.

We dig into the hard stuff: how long is “too long” to wait for commitment words, what to do when you feel like you’re putting in more effort than your partner, and how to spot the difference between someone moving slowly and someone simply coasting. Then we tackle friend group drama and relationship boundaries: when a partner’s best friend is hostile, is it jealousy, insecurity, or something deeper and how much is your partner responsible for fixing it?

The conversation also moves into modern dating and breakup advice: ghosting, getting ditched mid-date, and why it’s not a reflection of your value. We talk marriage timeline pressure and the desire to have kids by 30, how to weigh your personal goals against the reality of your relationship, and why pushing someone into a life decision can backfire long-term. We end with practical, direct breakup scripts for ending a 10-month relationship kindly before it turns into a messy move-in situation.

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Transcript

Intro And Ground Rules

Speaker 1 0:16

Okay, so as promised, I have my boyfriend Robert back on the podcast, but just like last time, he did not want to be on camera because he's very incognito, correct?

Speaker 3 0:28

Correct.

Speaker 1 0:29

Okay. And our episode drink of the week, we have two different ones. I'm having a white wine so I can make it through this episode without any issues like last time. And what are you having?

Speaker 2 0:42

I'm having a lemon ice waterloo with a splash of cranberry. And I did have a shot before.

Speaker 1 0:47

Yeah. But we decided we weren't gonna have shots on the podcast like we did last time because last time was a train wreck, and you guys don't need to go back and look look it up. It's um yeah, we can just clean slate. Okay, and we are gonna be reading your Gremlin guidance questions that were kind of mainly about relationships, is what was sent in. I had put a call to action out last week saying if you wanted to send in Gremlin guidance questions and you wanted a male perspective on it to send those in because he was gonna be on and answering those questions. You guys did. And we have a nice little grouping of questions. Also, I do want to preface that he has read the questions already because he didn't want to go into this blind, but we have not discussed our answers with each other. So I don't know what he's gonna say, which is worrying me, and he doesn't know what I'm gonna say. So I'm hoping he's not gonna say anything too crazy, but um, we're all gonna find out together. Are you ready to do this?

Speaker 2 1:52

Ready.

Speaker 1 1:52

Okay.

When “I Love You” Is Missing

Speaker 1 1:53

Okay, the first question is from Anonymous, and Anonymous says, I have been dating my boyfriend for a year now. Our anniversary just passed. I planned a fun staycation for us with activities we would both enjoy and a dinner at a nice restaurant. I wasn't hoping for much in return except for my boyfriend to finally say, I love you. I have been saying it to him for the past three months, but he has yet to return the sentiment. Should I be concerned or just wait and give him more time? Anonymous thoughts.

Speaker 2 2:28

I'd wait and give him more time.

Speaker 1 2:30

I think how did I know you were gonna say that?

Speaker 2 2:31

One year.

Speaker 1 2:32

Okay.

Speaker 2 2:33

She waited nine months.

Speaker 1 2:34

Okay.

Speaker 2 2:35

Maybe he was like, uh, I want to say it, but it took her nine months, so he's like, okay.

Speaker 1 2:41

So you think he's just being overly cautious?

Speaker 2 2:45

Or yeah, maybe he's not sure. If yeah, I mean, I don't know. Maybe he is overly cautious.

Speaker 1 2:51

Interesting. So I had a different take on it, and it was only because like I think I would agree with what you had to say if she didn't give the back story, which is that she's the one that planned the anniversary, she's the one that did all these, you know, she did the staycation, she did, let's see, fun uh activities we would both enjoy and a dinner at a nice restaurant. It seems like she's putting a lot more into this relationship than he is.

Speaker 2 3:18

She's planned it. It hasn't happened. What if she doesn't know yet if he's planned something already, too.

Speaker 1 3:24

But it says the anniversary just passed. So they already did it.

Speaker 2 3:28

Oh, just passed. Okay.

Speaker 1 3:30

Yeah, so it's already happened. She thought that it he was maybe gonna maybe he was saving it for said anniversary, but then nothing.

Speaker 2 3:38

How was he during the anniversary night?

Speaker 1 3:41

See, I talked about this on the podcast last episode that we had discussed like the plight of the Gremlin Guidance questions. We don't know. We can't ask follow-up questions. So so you think just wait a line.

Speaker 2 3:57

You know how you how he acted. If you feel you should wait, give him more time, then give him a little bit more time. If you feel he was just cold, like uh it's our anniversary, yeah, whatever.

Speaker 1 4:07

Yeah, it does it does seem like he's a little lax dazzle, which is which I don't like, which is what's making me think maybe she's a little more invested in the relationship than he is. Because he can't he can't even like bother to say I love you.

Speaker 2 4:24

Wake up, groundhog day, bye, see ya. Wait, what? No, I'm saying, like, is he not invested? Is he just like uh comfort?

Speaker 1 4:33

Maybe he yeah, maybe he's too comfortable in the relationship. I don't know. So your advice is to just wait it out.

Speaker 2 4:40

I say you need to not too long, but yeah, give him a little bit of time.

Speaker 1 4:44

I say you need to suss him out. And if you feel like you're putting more into this relationship than he's even bothering, then I'm gonna say you should say too-loo. But yeah, I guess just wait it a little bit, but not too much. We we're not here to waste time, right?

Speaker 3 5:00

Correct.

Speaker 1 5:02

Okay, let's move on to the next one.

His Best Friend Says He Hates You

Speaker 1 5:05

Next one is also from Anonymous. Anonymous says, I found out my boyfriend's best friend doesn't like me. I have only met him a handful of times and have done nothing to make him not like me. But a couple of weeks ago, we went out for my boyfriend's birthday, and halfway through the night, and many drinks later, his friend comes up to me, puts his arm around my shoulders, leans in, and says, You know, I don't really like you. I thought he was joking and laughed it off until he said, I don't know, there's something about you. Your personality, your voice. I just don't like you. I was so hurt. I tried to brush it off as to not ruin the rest of the night, but the next day I talked with my boyfriend and he said, Yes, his friend has made comments before, but he doesn't pay attention to them. But I feel extremely self-conscious and don't know if I should talk with the friend again, let it go, etc. Thoughts? Anonymous.

Speaker 2 6:06

It's a tough one because I mean, best friend all the time before you were in the picture.

Speaker 1 6:13

Right.

Speaker 2 6:13

But you're his girl, right? If he's told him a few times something, he should have said, mentioned something, right?

Speaker 1 6:21

Oh, so you think he should have told her, hey, by the way, my friend doesn't like you.

Speaker 2 6:24

Like, hey, I don't know what's going on, but he said something, like, did you say something? Just to put it out there. Uh-huh. But I mean, he's, you know, he's gotta make a choice. Not like cut him one or the other off. Oh, okay. Like, hey, all right, we're just not gonna be at the same events with him.

Speaker 1 6:44

Or, I mean, you could just like be grown-ups and you know, get over it.

Speaker 2 6:48

Many drinks later, maybe not have that many drinks, or that many drinks. Yeah. If he's gonna talk shit to you.

Speaker 1 6:54

Yeah. Okay, I had a take on it. I think the friend is jealous, but not that jealous, like he wants to date the girlfriend. I think he's jealous that his friend is found a girl and spending time. Yeah, like he doesn't have his undivided attention.

Speaker 2 7:11

I can see that.

Speaker 1 7:12

Like he's like, Oh, I don't like you. And there's he said that I don't there's your personality, your voice, I just don't like you. Like, if there was a specific reason, like where an incident happened and he was like, I don't like the what she said, or I don't like what she did, or how she handled it, then you can pinpoint it to something and be like, okay, well, you know what? Maybe we're just not, you know, meshing together. We're not, you know, clicking. But for him to just be like, I don't know, I just don't like you, it's like it screams jealousy. And I don't think it's because he wants to be with her. He, yeah, here he's she's taking away time that he spends with his friends.

Speaker 2 7:48

He has nothing to do because his friend is in a relationship.

Speaker 1 7:51

Yeah. And I mean, it's just natural if you get in a relationship with someone, you you know, spend a little less time with your friends, maybe a lot less time with your friends.

Speaker 2 8:01

What did he tell the boyfriend though? It's like, oh yeah, he's mentioned it a couple of times. What did he mention?

Speaker 1 8:06

I mean, yeah, it just says I know, yeah. See, that's the annoying part. Yeah, it just says that he said yes, his friend has made comments before, but he doesn't pay attention to them.

Speaker 2 8:17

Like, why do you have to wait to say something?

Speaker 1 8:20

He needed liquid courage to tell her he can't stand her. I mean, I would wonder though, like, has he been like this with all of his friends, or like at least that particular friend, friend's girlfriends? Like, to because it seems like the f the boyfriend isn't too worried about his friend making these comments. So is he probably thinking like he makes these all the time? He never likes the girls I date. Like, is it that why he's brushing it off?

Speaker 2 8:46

Maybe there was the last friend to get a girlfriend, and now he's out of friends.

Speaker 1 8:50

Uh oh, like they were the last two single guys, and now he's like now he's like, damn, I'm by myself. See, that's the annoying part of the guidance. We can't ask them, hey, is he the last single dude? Which I feel I don't know. It just it's screaming jealousy, because like, yeah, there's some people you just don't get along with, or you just like you know, there are people that you just don't like necessarily want to hang out with or spend time with, but to go out of your way to like say something to them.

Speaker 2 9:23

Or maybe this dude's just the annoying friend that only has this one friend.

Speaker 1 9:27

We're obviously not on the friend side here. Okay, here, let's answer her question. She feels self-conscious and she doesn't know she should talk with the friend again, let it go, or etc. What do you think she should do?

Speaker 2 9:40

Corner him, sober.

Speaker 1 9:42

I was gonna say let it go.

Speaker 2 9:45

Straight up ask him.

Speaker 9:46

Just be like, dude, what's your problem? Yeah. Oh, that was the totally different take than I was I was gonna say.

Speaker 2 9:51

Get him up completely sober at work or go to his work or Oh, you're saying ambush this dude? And just walk up and be like, all right, spill it. What's the problem?

Speaker 10:04

That's aggressive. I was not expecting you to say that.

Speaker 2 10:07

He either has to answer or fucking walk away.

Speaker 1 10:10

Okay, so that's one thing you could do, or you could take my advice and just let it go and be like, you know what? He's you know, got his own demons, and that's a personal problem. I think I see. I maybe I'm coming from the space of I wouldn't have the balls to go up. Like, let's say if one of your friends said they didn't like me, I wouldn't have the balls to go up to them and be like, why don't you like me?

Speaker 10:34

Yeah, so that's I mean, I've done it.

Speaker 2 10:35

I'm just kidding. Just kidding. Just kidding. I'm so hurt.

Speaker 10:42

Wait, do they not like me? No, it's been like almost eight years. It's a hell of a long con if they can't stand.

Speaker 2 10:48

They invite you places before they invite me. Like, oh yeah, if you want to bring him along, go ahead.

Speaker 1 10:51

I am a pretty good time. Okay, so there you go. You have two options of what you want to do. You can be you could be forward and just put on the table. Yeah, and I was gonna say aggressive, but that makes it sound bad. That makes it sound like I'm trying to like steer you in my direction. But if you want to address it with him face first, sober, be like, what's up? Or you can just let it go and let him fight his own demons.

Speaker 2 11:17

Yeah, or hey, I'm not going anywhere, so yeah, hop on or stay home.

Speaker 11:26

Hop on or stay home. All right, cool.

Speaker 1 11:29

I didn't know you were gonna go that route. All right, good to know.

The Blind Date Bathroom Vanish

Speaker 1 11:33

Okay, the next question is from Kelsey, and Kelsey says, I was set up on a blind date by a coworker. We met at the restaurant, and he's cute. Around 10 minutes into us talking at the table, he excuses himself to go to the bathroom, but never comes back. I was sitting there for an hour wondering what happened and what I did wrong. Why would someone just ditch in the middle of a date? Kelsey. Okay, I'm gonna I'm gonna start this off. Have you ever been ditched mid-date?

Speaker 2 12:06

No.

Speaker 1 12:06

Have you ever ditched someone mid-date?

Speaker 2 12:09

I have not.

Speaker 1 12:10

I thought you you looked like you were gonna say I have, and I was gonna be like horrified.

Speaker 2 12:15

No, I have not.

Speaker 1 12:15

You have not. Okay. Have you ever ghosted someone before? Do you know what ghosting is?

Speaker 2 12:22

I mean, I mean, yeah, maybe once. Asked somebody out to the movies and then had second thoughts and just never called and said. You asked someone out to the movies? This was like many years ago. I was confused.

Speaker 1 12:36

I'm sick. Okay. So let's say, okay, I'm gonna make you the guy. I'm so jealous. Okay. Um, so you're the guy. What would be the reason you would ditch mid-date?

Speaker 2 12:54

Oh, I wouldn't. I mean, I'd stick it out and be nice. Right. Just be like Nice to meet you. Hey, you know, we'll see each other around, or I'll give you a call. But my God, you're like Chandler. Well, I mean, just walk to the restroom and not come back. But that's mean. An hour, really? It took you an hour to figure out he was not coming back.

Speaker 1 13:17

Okay, well, we're not gonna shame Kelsey.

Speaker 2 13:20

I know she probably didn't wait an hour after like 10 hours.

Speaker 1 13:23

Well, I mean, I think maybe she was sitting there, like, maybe questioning.

Speaker 13:28

Yeah, I mean, if the food and drinks are already cut, I mean, I'm I'm staying for that drink. If I got ditched midday, I'm gonna fucking drown my sorrows.

Speaker 2 13:37

Maybe he pooped his pants. Maybe he didn't make it to the restroom. He was rushing to the restroom, got there, and I don't know, it shot out before he got to the stall.

Speaker 13:48

Oh, now I'm really sick. So we're thinking this man uh soiled himself. You know what?

Speaker 1 13:57

Actually, how about that? Let's go with that, Kelsey. He didn't make it to the bathroom, and it's not you, it's him.

unknown 14:05

That is him.

Speaker 1 14:06

I mean, no matter what, it's him. I think it's extremely rude to do that. And at the very least, he could have just went through the date and not you can't say you're gonna call someone and then not call Robert.

Speaker 2 14:21

Once, a long time ago.

Speaker 1 14:23

Ay, ay. Back when they had only landlines.

Speaker 2 14:26

Correct. I think it was maybe I had a pager.

Speaker 1 14:29

Oh boy, all right. But at least you didn't waste any more time with the guy, and you can just move on. It's extremely rude to do. So, guys out there, don't do it. Girls out there, only do it if you feel like it's like a safety issue.

Speaker 2 14:45

I'm gonna say he soiled himself.

Speaker 1 14:47

I think, yeah.

Speaker 2 14:48

One or two, don't know, but oh I was like Yeah.

Speaker 1 14:52

If you let's say that happened, would you go back to the date and say, hey, I had an accident?

Speaker 2 14:56

I'd at least tell like a waiter or somebody. Like, hey, tell her having a crack.

Speaker 1 15:01

Well, she obviously didn't.

Speaker 2 15:03

I mean, well, somebody you know, grab a waiter on the way out, be like, hey, can you tell her uh I don't know, you guys spilled a tray of drinks on me? You know.

Speaker 15:15

Oh, I thought for sure you were gonna say, can you tell her I had an accident?

Speaker 2 15:20

I mean, he obviously knows her friend. They got set up.

Speaker 1 15:24

Oh, I didn't even think about that. Duh, yeah. Ask the ask your friend, your co-coworker? Yeah, ask your co-worker what's up with her friend.

Speaker 2 15:32

Yeah, I mean, I'm going with yeah, he's sharded.

Speaker 1 15:38

That is the most disgusting word. This is a classy podcast where we get drunk and tell embarrassing stories. We don't talk about poop. Heavens. Okay, yeah, Kelsey, it's not you, it's him. He he had a he had a potty accident. It was just just a potty problem.

Speaker 2 15:58

Unless there was an ex sitting the corner.

Speaker 1 16:01

We're still talking about this.

Speaker 2 16:03

And he saw the ex or somebody he liked and was like, I can't be seen with somebody else, and I'm going to the restroom and be left.

Speaker 1 16:11

I think in all reality he was just a jerk who was like, uh, I'm not feeling it. Uh I'm just gonna go home. That's what I think happened. I think he was just like being rude and not thinking about the how it would feel if he was ditched on a date. And, you know, if he did it, you know, to just not waste his own time, then Karma's gonna come back and bite him in the ass. And maybe then he'll poop himself. Why are we still talking about poo? Okay. All right. The next question.

Marriage And Kids By 30

Speaker 1 16:43

Oh, I always love it when people sign off like in little quippy sayings. This one is from Questioning in Quebec. I just love that. And it has alliteration in it. Okay. She says, My boyfriend of three years says he's not ready to get married yet. We have been talking, and I expressed that it has been my desire to be married with at least one child by the time I am 30 years old. I am currently 27. He has always known this, but now as we inch closer to my 30th birthday, I'm starting to get the itch to achieve my goals. I had a conversation with him and he said he didn't realize I was serious about my timeline. He said he thinks marriage is a really big commitment and he's not ready for it yet, and he definitely isn't ready to be a father. This really crushed my spirit because I thought he understood, and now I'm wondering if I've wasted three years of my life. Emily, I'm wondering what you would do in my situation, and I want to know your boyfriend's opinion as well. Questioning in Quebec.

Speaker 2 17:47

Well, well. Well, you still have close to three years, you know. Yeah. Nine months of pregnancy, so two and a half years you have to.

Speaker 1 17:56

Oh, we're doing math now.

Speaker 2 17:59

I mean, if you really like the guy and you think he is interested.

Speaker 1 18:04

Well, I mean, they've been together for three years, so I mean, he's obviously interested.

Speaker 2 18:08

Well, in her ready to be a father yet. Or get married. So, I mean, give him, I don't know, don't give him an ultimatum, but no give him a little bit of time. Maybe if you see he's changing his mind, you know, it's still two and a half, three years to go.

Speaker 1 18:28

Right.

Speaker 2 18:29

Until you're 30. You know, but if it's not him, you only have two and a half years to find somebody.

Speaker 1 18:35

Right. So that's what I was thinking. It's like if you really want to be with this guy, then you get you stay with him. The timeline thing, I feel like it's not, I feel like I'm gonna say the wrong word. I was gonna say juvenile, but that sounds rude and not the way I'm trying to get my message across. I just feel like like I remember when I was like 19, I thought that by the age I am right now, 32, going on 33, I was going to be married, have bought a house, and have a kid because that was my delusions when I was 19. And now I'm good with all that. But I just feel like having a timeline, it doesn't really serve anybody. Like things will happen when they're supposed to happen, as opposed to like, you know, if you're gonna rush this guy, you don't want to rush him because if he's not ready for it, or you know, you don't want to him to feel trapped or feel like he has an ultimatum or anything like that. And if but if you're so focused on this timeline, then maybe you need to move on and find somebody else. Right.

Speaker 2 19:51

You know, if he's rushed into the marriage and the kid, it he's stuck, he's gotta slow down and not do what he his goal was.

Speaker 1 19:58

Right. I just feel like trying to rush someone to get married and to have a kid, like it just makes them dig their their heels in even more, you know. Like I'm immediately I thought it always comes back to Vanderpom Brawls. I immediately thought of Katie and Schwartz, where she was telling him, No, we have to get married, we have to get married. And they did, and he never grew up. So she ended up marrying this man child who she ended up having to divorce because he refused to be what she wanted, which she hoped he would become, you know?

Speaker 2 20:31

Um going back to questioning Quebec, um give him give him a little bit of time. Right. Feel it out. I mean, you're running low on time if that's your goal, but he might have a goal himself that he's right trying to do and not mentioning.

Speaker 1 20:48

Yeah, I just feel like either way, you don't want to push him into something that he's not wanting or not ready for yet. And I think you you yourself need to like figure out what's the most important thing to you. Do you want to create a life with this person? Not on a very strict like specific timeline, or are you so dead set on being married with a kid by the time you're 30 that you're willing to find someone else? You know, like I you need I don't think there's a right answer that we can give you. I think you need to decide for yourself what your priorities are. Do you feel like you're gonna be settling if you stay with him and don't hit that time, that timeline goal? Or do you feel like you're settling if you find someone else who's you know willing to fit that timeline? You know what I mean?

Speaker 2 21:40

Yeah.

Speaker 1 21:41

Like which what's more important to you?

Speaker 2 21:44

Yeah, exactly. You know you leave him and try to hit the goal by 30, but what if the next person's the wrong person?

Speaker 1 21:51

Right. Yeah, I think it's just personal goals. What's the most important to you at the end of the day? You have anything else for questions? Questioning in Quebec. Good luck. Okay. Good luck. Alright.

Stop Proving You Are Endgame

Speaker 1 22:06

The next question is from Jenna. And Jenna says, I have been on and off with who I think is my soulmate for a couple of years. I know we are meant to be together. How can I show him we are endgame? Jenna. I'm gonna I'm gonna send this to you real quick because I want to know what you have to say.

Speaker 2 22:28

I mean, if it's a couple years and you know, if he doesn't know, like I'm sure you've been trying to show, right? Tell him, show him. If he hasn't got it yet, maybe he's not it, or maybe move on. And if he is your soulmate, you guys will meet and clash again in the near future.

Speaker 1 22:48

I'm happily surprised with your answer. I thought I don't know where I thought you were gonna go with that, but I was gonna be like, he's gonna say the wrong thing and he's gonna piss me off immediately. But you didn't. Okay, I I look, I've said this before on several episodes. I feel like a broken record. I also feel like I'm gonna come across as like a little curt and mean. Why are we chasing guys at all? Like, why do you trying to prove to this guy that we're we're supposed to be end game? Why isn't he just fucking no? Because he has feelings and has a brain and supposedly a heart. Why like why do you have to prove? I feel like having to prove to someone, like, we're supposed to be together. Like, this isn't a rom-com, this is real life. And if you can't see how amazing I am, then you know what? We're not in game. That's what I'm gonna say to Jenna. Jenna, if he doesn't see how amazing you are and that you are the one for him, then he's not the one for you. And when he figures it out, you'll be long gone, and he can settle with whoever the hell he's gonna settle with.

Speaker 2 23:55

Or not long gone. Just you know He needs to get his shit together. And he's gonna figure it out. I mean, he might be depressed or sad that you guys took a break.

Speaker 1 24:06

Well, obviously they've been on and off for a couple years, so he'll catch it.

Speaker 2 24:12

Don't go on right away. Stay off for a while till he actually chases you.

Speaker 1 24:17

So you think he should chase her?

Speaker 2 24:20

Well, she knows obviously he's confused.

Speaker 1 24:23

Okay. I don't know. I really thought you were gonna say something totally opposite of me. So yeah, Jenna, we're not settling. We're if he can't see how amazing you are, then hit the road, and then you can find someone who thinks the sun revolves around you.

Speaker 2 24:41

Or wait and see what he does. I mean, if he's moving on, then move on, give him a little bit of time.

Speaker 1 24:48

Meh. Again, two different opinions. All right, and our last question is from Mariah.

How To Break Up Cleanly

Speaker 1 24:58

Okay, and Mariah says, Can you ask your boyfriend what is the best way to break up with a guy? I have been dating this man for 10-ish months, and he's a nice guy, but I just don't see us having a future. He's been dropping hints that he would be interested in moving in together, and I need to nip this in the bud now, but I don't know what to say or how to say it. I don't want to use the cliche line, it's not you, it's me, even though it's kind of true in this case. Thank you so much, and I love your show, Mariah.

Speaker 2 25:30

Mariah nip it.

Speaker 1 25:31

But she's saying how.

Speaker 2 25:33

Well, I mean, she needs to nip it.

Speaker 1 25:34

Well, she knows that.

Speaker 2 25:36

You I mean it's cliche, but you have to use it. You know, it's not you, it's me.

Speaker 1 25:40

Just so if someone were to break up with you.

Speaker 2 25:43

Bye.

Speaker 1 25:46

The confident okay. Actually, this is something I do want to talk about before we end this podcast. I was told by your Mariah, we're gonna get back to your question. I was told by all of your friends when we first started going out, and I met them all. They're like, dude, he has no game whatsoever. And I was like, really? Like, hmm. And then I was given examples of how you don't, and I was like, oh, interesting. But as the years have gone on, it seemed like you just had like no confidence to go up to someone. Like, I used to ask you, like, if you saw a pretty girl in a bar, what would you like, what would you say? What would you say when you went up to her? And your answer all the time would be like, Oh, I wouldn't go up to her.

Speaker 2 26:33

Correct.

Speaker 1 26:34

But it's like, okay, so you don't have the confidence to do it. Yet right now, as you sit here, you are the most confident person I've ever met because you're like, bye, if you can't see how great I am. Is am I rubbing off on you or something?

Speaker 2 26:45

Like, what is you're that great that it gave me that much confidence?

Speaker 26:49

Oh, that was very sweet. But no, seriously. Like the amount of confidence that you have where you're just like, bye. What what happened like what happened?

unknown 27:01

I just said it.

Speaker 1 27:02

Okay. Well, I just felt like I needed to get to the bottom of that. Okay, so if a girl, what's the nicest way a girl could break up with you?

Speaker 2 27:10

Exactly that. Just it's ask them, hey, what's the nicest way I can put it? But I want to break up with you.

Speaker 27:19

And he if he if he's clueless. I mean, it's look, it's it seems like this guy is a nice guy.

Speaker 2 27:28

So like you're just what's the nicest way I can put this?

Speaker 27:32

Oh my god.

Speaker 2 27:34

Straight.

Speaker 27:35

Okay. All right, I'll take notes.

Speaker 1 27:40

Um, okay, yeah, I wanted to give this question to you because I was think I had been thinking about this one for a couple of days, and I am famous for not knowing how to break up with someone, and I draw it out.

Speaker 2 27:55

I mean, like to me, you just gotta be straight.

Speaker 1 27:58

Just like say, like, look, I am sorry, but I like you as a person.

Speaker 2 28:03

Yeah, not like, oh, you know, wishy-washy.

Speaker 1 28:06

Well, um direct but kind. Okay.

Speaker 2 28:10

Just be like unless he's an ass. I mean, she says he's nice. Yeah, then just ask him. Hey, what's the nicest way?

Speaker 28:16

No, don't do it. If someone if okay, if in the past some girl said that to you.

Speaker 2 28:27

Um, do you need deodorant?

Speaker 1 28:30

That is so rude. Yeah, just okay.

Speaker 2 28:33

I say just like it's not you, it's me, but I'm sorry.

Speaker 1 28:37

Okay, well, that sounds patronizing. Okay, I'm gonna say that you just need to be like, Look, I don't want to waste your time. I don't want to waste my time. I would love for us to be friends if you want to be friends. Sometimes, you know, it's better to just kick them out to the curb. But I would just say, you know what? Like, I like you as a friend, I just don't see a future with you. Thanks. I'm telling you, I don't know how to do this.

Speaker 2 29:01

I mean, he's a nice guy, so you don't I mean, you don't want to be me.

Speaker 29:06

What is wrong with you? I mean, I said he just learned what the term ghost means, so he's like running with it. He's like, wow, it's a new word. It's a big word for Elmo. Ay, ay, aye.

Speaker 1 29:18

Okay, don't please don't ghost him. Just be nice.

Speaker 2 29:21

And be like, hey, you know what? I don't think it's working out. Yeah. I just want to be nice about it. Right. But you know, we can be friends.

Speaker 1 29:30

Yeah.

Speaker 2 29:30

Which is mean.

Speaker 1 29:32

That's mean to say I want to be friends.

Speaker 2 29:35

I'm in the friend zone.

Speaker 1 29:36

Well, you live there for years. I mean, it's not that bad.

unknown 29:42

Wow.

Speaker 1 29:44

All right. Well, those were all of our questions. They were okay. I will say I do there were more questions that were in my inbox, but I didn't give them to you because I didn't think you'd be able to answer them. They were a little more, don't give me he did. I wish you could see. He gave me a look right now, like, what? It was more like about like somebody, like they were like more like fuck boy questions as opposed to like relationship questions. And do you have that uh capability to be a fuckboy? Because I don't feel that from you.

unknown 30:21

Come on.

Speaker 2 30:22

That's why you didn't ask me these questions.

Speaker 1 30:24

Yeah, so I so I there are questions that I didn't get to, but I do have someone on deck to answer the fuck boy questions. I know who it is. I'm not gonna say who it is on here yet. I will just tease you with the fact that I do have someone on deck waiting, and that person will come on the podcast soon. All right,

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Speaker 1 30:44

so that is the end of this episode. Normally I would end an episode by asking the guests to give out their socials, but he does not have socials. So um What are socials? There we go. Okay. So if you want to follow myself and the podcast, you may do so on Instagram and TikTok at EmilyTogremilyPod. If you want to watch this episode and almost all the past episodes on YouTube, you may do so at Emily to GremilyPod on YouTube. If you have your own Gremlin story, you need Gremlin guidance, or you have a juicy piece of Gremlin gossip, you can email that into the podcast at emilytogremily@gmail.com. Uh call to action that I'm saying at the end of almost every episode, I guess, now at this point. I've done it for the past like three episodes. If you have any episode theme or topic suggestions or guest suggestions, or you yourself want to be a guest on the podcast, you can email in those suggestions at emily to gremilypod @gmail.com or message or DM me on social media. And yes, the Instagram and the TikToks are still completely up to date. Two weeks in a row. I believe I should get a pat on the back. Yes. He's raising his hand.

Speaker 2 32:04

Um, maybe I'll be on sooner than you guys think again. Maybe.

Speaker 1 32:09

Maybe it took months. Well, actually, you were supposed to be on a few months ago, and then remember they were doing like roofing stuff, so that got canceled because it was way too loud and noisy. You did you enjoy being on this episode? It was fun. Yay! Look what happens when we can keep it together and have a productive day and then come home and not be drunk fools for the whole world. Well, not the whole world, but lots of people to hear and see.

Speaker 2 32:39

Keep the questions coming.

Speaker 1 32:40

Yeah. Yeah. If you have more questions that you specifically want him to answer, then email those in and just put in the subject line that they're meant for Robert.

Speaker 2 32:51

And specifically me? Yeah. Well, I mean, what if there's like a couple episodes with no you, just me?

Speaker 1 32:58

He's gonna take over my podcast. Well, the you know, the main not main, a large part of the podcast is the YouTube videos. So that means you would have to be in front of the camera as I am today in my jammy jams. So you'd have to get over your, you know, witness protection motto that you got going on over here.

Speaker 2 33:20

Maybe I can just cut holes for my eyes behind you.

Speaker 1 33:24

No, we're not messing up my set that you designed so beautifully. All right, that's it for us. We're gonna go, I gotta go cook dinner and go make muffins. So that's the rest of my night, and he's gonna eat the food after I'm done making it. Woo-hoo. And thanks for coming on the podcast. And he'll come on, I guess, sooner than I expected. Yeah, sooner than don't hold your breath, but you know, let's let's give out positive energy and make sure to, you know, send all your praise his way so he feels loved, right? Correct. He moved away from the microphone. All right, make sure to like, follow, share, subscribe, rate five stars, do all the things. Cheers. Bye.